You don’t have to do it alone…
I have started many journeys throughout my life. One thing I needed to know was that I wasn’t alone. I want you to know you are not alone. So many of us feel like we are the only one going through what we are currently facing or have faced in our lives. What we don’t realize is that so many people…
- have gone through something similar
- are facing something we have already gone through
- or will face something we are going through or have gone through
The problem is
The problem is most people are not talking about their problems, challenges, traumas, etc. Not so great things happen in life and it seems as though our society has conditioned us to never talk about it, push it under the rug, forget about it and move on, or just pretend it never happened because no one wants to hear about it anyway. I’m here to tell you that you should talk about it, you should never push it under the rug, don’t forget about it and move on, and definitely, don’t pretend it never happened.
When we act as though nothing has happened, we deprive ourselves of a great experience called healing. You cannot heal if you do not acknowledge there is anything to heal from. Many people think that sharing what has gone on is gossip, complaining, or they are a burden. Sharing with one or two of your closest friends about your situation is key to being able to move forward. Now I’m not saying you should complain and gossip but I am suggesting that you reach out to those closest to you that are able to be non-biased, give you guidance that you may not want to hear, and that can pray with and for you through this difficult time.
One of the most important things you can do to prepare yourself for when you feel like you are alone in your situation is to build a support system. This may sound strange, but it is particularly important. Not everyone needs to know what you are going through. It is necessary to have a select 1-5 people that you can turn to when you need someone, no matter what you are facing.
I’m sure some of you are asking, “Well what If I am going through something right now and I don’t have a support system in place?” I would encourage you to think of 1 person you can turn to, talk to about what you are facing or consider talking to a life coach, therapist, pastor, counsellor, or mentor to gain some immediate advice or support to help you at the moment.
Making sure you have what you need so you can be your best every day is a great necessity. We all need others in our lives to encourage us, support us, hold us accountable and to pour into. We are not meant to walk this journey alone. Evaluate your support system. At first for me it was people who inspired me through books, you-tube, and Facebook. Then I was able to move through where I was and start building an incredible support team around me. They are amazing women, collaborators, and friends to me. To find your tribe you must start somewhere.
Now it’s time to do something for yourself. Start taking inventory of your life. We can’t change anything unless we know what we have, where we have been, and where we are now.
To get where you want to go you have to know where you have been, what you have, and where you are now. This may seem strange or you may not want to look back and that is normal.
However, sometimes, not always or for everyone, you need to look back.
I’m here to remind you:
What have you faced in your life? This shows you what you are capable of handling with or without a solid foundational belief system.
Who did you have in your life to help you during those times? This helps you to see what a support system does or does not look like. You may or may not have had a support system.
You may have had multiple support systems through-out your life.
- What did those look like?
- Were they helpful? If so, in what way? If not, why?
- How we overcame these obstacles in our lives. Did you do it alone?
- Did you have someone helping you?
- What does your life look like now?
- Do you have people around you who support you and encourage you?
- If so, who? If not, seek out virtual resources and books as well to help you pour into yourself.
Do you believe you can and are the only person that can change your life? If so, great you are farther ahead than most people.
If not, then you are right, and nothing will change because you won’t be the change you want to see not only in your life but the world.
There is a saying “Be the change you want to see in the world”. Quite a profound right? Well if you only complain about what you can change then nothing will change. If you focus only on what you can change then everything will change.
CHOOSE TO SHIFT your life. It’s Time 2 Change. Will You?
Take inventory monthly or quarterly or as often as needed. This will help you on your journey to self-discovery. Take the leap. Better yet, JUMP!! You will thank yourself later.
Declare Your Truth ~ Live With Confidence ~ Dena Adams ~