Hitting the Rumble Strips
It’s a typical day like any other. Wake up; have my devotional time with God; get dressed; wash my face because it’s the best skincare I’ve ever tried and it makes me feel joy when I use it; brush my teeth so I don’t kill people within 5 feet of me; take the dogs outside; feed the dogs; water the grass if I remember(not likely); make me a cappuccino; and then into all the things I have to do that day. Nothing too spectacular.
It is how I start my morning that reminds me I’m rooted in values and morals that are bigger than me and how I live plants seeds in others. I wake up thinking about my family, how I am serving them, how I am showing up for them. This year our youngest son graduated high school. It has me looking back at many decisions I have made as a mom.
Talk about not just veering off the road and hitting rumble strips. I have veered off the road, over the rumble strips into the median and up on to the frontage road before being able to regain control of my life. Yes, that did happen to me one night and it was so scary. I had to have had divine protection and covering over me. Not for any other reason than I prayed that night I got in the car that God would get me home safely to my kids.
Have you ever been in a place in your life where you feel like you are blowing around like a tumbleweed? You have no roots. You have nothing you grab hold of to guide your decisions in your daily life. Depending on who you are around and who you are trying to please tends to dictate your choices, actions, and reactions to everything?
I was in such a lost place in my life then. I will say that at the time I was making horrible decisions. I had a 6-month-old and a 2 yr old. I was going to the bar about 4 nights a week. I was making horrible choices. I did it all for a few reasons, none of which condone my choices they just help explain where I was in my life. I was so lost from anyone or anything that could help direct me to anything other than what made them comfortable.
Be careful who you, not only surround yourself with, also who you choose to seek guidance from. I believe in God. I believe Jesus died on the cross for my sins. I believe when Jesus died that God sent the Holy Spirit (God’s Truth) to dwell within us. Unfortunately, I didn’t have any guidance or support from anyone who could help me when I veered off the road onto the rumble strips to help guide me back to the path I should have been on. Have you ever felt that way?
I know that living life believing only in yourself and not surrounding yourself with people that will help lift you up and encourage you to make good choices is just disaster waiting to happen. We believe we have to do it all alone and don’t take help from others. Then we hit rock bottom and blame everyone else for our problems, curse God for not saving us when we didn’t ask for His help to begin with and then we do it all over again. Same people, same choices, expecting different results. That is the definition of insanity, just in case you weren’t aware.
So I had to make different choices. I had to realize that I would lose people I cared about as I stepped back from a lifestyle that they didn’t want to leave. I had to realize that I would be ridiculed and blamed as a problem so those around me wouldn’t have to take responsibility for themselves. It was just easier to tell me how awful my life would be without them. Don’t get me wrong, it was difficult. It was all worth it.
I encourage you to evaluate where you are in your life right now. What do you see as issues? What do you want to change? Are you constantly blaming others or are you also taking full responsibility for yourself, your choices, and your actions? The sooner you can get brutally honest with yourself about where you are and decide you are going to change it, nothing will change.
When you make this decision, you must also commit to it, set a plan, and then act. For any of this to work you need to know what values you live from. I hope this was impactful for you. I believe that we all have a story that can help someone else. We all have wisdom inside of us just waiting to come out. It doesn’t matter if you are broke or make 8 or 9 figures a year, you are not exempt from hitting the rumble strips of life and needing a plan, values, and a support system to help you get back on track.
Declare Your Truth ~ Live With Confidence ~ Dena Adams